Sohaila Abdulali: Being #Raped Was Terrible, But Being Alive Is More Important

Most rapes being reported in India now are gang rapes. How can women protect themselves when confront by a group of men who are armed. I was horrified when yesterday in response to the gang rape of the photojournalist in Bombay, a few TV channels advised women on using some very basic self-defense moves to stop the rape, and fight back. Not of the programs told the women, that they have to prioritize their survival over their rape. That they should not attempt anything that would endanger their lives. That they need to know that even more than the rape it is their life that they need to worry about.


sohailaSohaila Abdulali is an Indian born author and journalist who currently lives in the U.S.  In 1980, at the age of 17 she survived a violent gang rape in India.  Three years later she wrote about her experience in the Indian magazine, Manushi.  Below is an excerpt from her article.

Sohaila’s first-hand account is courageous beyond words!  Women in India, even in the educated middle classes, won’t report rape nor go public because of the associated notion of “shame!”

But there is another issue that Sohaila discusses that media and women’s forums in India even today, in the face of horrendously escalating violence on women, shy away from.   Faced with a gang of violent men, Sohaila makes a choice to survive.  From the accounts of the Delhi gang rape victim it appears that the violence on her escalated as she bit one of them and tried to fight back

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